Are either of you contemplating divorce or separation? Are you unsure if you’re prepared to do the work necessary to make the relationship work- or what it might look like if you do (or you don’t) stay together?
Discernment therapy is a limited, solution-focused approach that allows each partner to identify their commitment to the relationship and determine their motivation to work on current problems that make the future uncertain.
Discernment Therapy provides a way for each partner to decide if the relationship issues they’re experiencing can be fixed, and–most importantly-if they are willing to do the work needed to figure out the causes of their current distress and what next steps to take.
Do you need help with:
- Deciding whether or not you should stay or leave this relationship
- Deciding what to do next and how to get started
- Dealing with information from your partner that affects your commitment to the relationship
- Coping with a partner who has a pattern of addictive behavior
- Relating to a partner who is "checked out" or emotionally unavailable
- Understanding how your relationship has reached this impasse
- Moving forward on your decision
I can help you to:
- Clarify your commitment to the future of the relationship
- Develop a course of action that addresses your identified goals
- Maintain your own emotional balance so you can decide how to move forward
- Accept the limits of vour control
- Identify the root cause of your disconnection
- Recognize the components of your negative cycles and each partner's role in them
- Improve your ability to self-validate and take action on vour decision
What's covered
We work individually and together in each session to determine the best way forward. Most Discernment Therapy is completed in 4-6 sessions.
Topics addressed in Discernment Therapy include:
- Each partner’s role in their positive and negative patterns
- What happened to create the impasse or rupture the couple is dealing with now
- What has been done to repair the conflict or rupture
- Internal and external factors that impact the relationship: affairs, addiction, withdrawal,
etc. - Impact the eventual decision will have on each, others important to them
- Commitment to the relationship
- Motivation to maintain the relationship
What to Expect
Ultimately, this is about deciding whether or not you’ll stay together, and the decision will ultimately be between you and your partner. But I will be there to help you work through that together in the least painful way possible.
What's covered
We work individually and together in each session to determine the best way forward. Most Discernment Therapy is completed in 4-6 sessions.
Topics addressed in Discernment Therapy include:
- Each partner’s role in their positive and negative patterns
- What happened to create the impasse or rupture the couple is dealing with now
- What has been done to repair the conflict or rupture
- Internal and external factors that impact the relationship: affairs, addiction, withdrawal,
etc. - Impact the eventual decision will have on each, others important to them
- Commitment to the relationship
- Motivation to maintain the relationship
What to Expect
Ultimately, this is about deciding whether or not you’ll stay together, and the decision will ultimately be between you and your partner. But I will be there to help you work through that together in the least painful way possible.
